Make Your First Dance Your Favorite Wedding Memory
On your wedding day, all eyes are on you and this is never more true than the moment you take the floor as husband and wife to perform your first dance. The wedding dance is a wedding tradition that symbolizes the two of you taking your steps together into life, in unison. To make sure your wedding dance truly shines keep these things in mind:
· What matters most is that you are connected and together. The best way to do this is to make eye contact with your partner every now and then while you are dancing and to keep breathing.
· It’s natural to feel a bit nervous. Make sure you and your partner are encouraging each other and again, keep breathing. Most people stop breathing when they get nervous and that only makes it worse because you stop sending oxygen to your brain. Passing out is no way to end your first danceJ.
· When you walk out onto the dance floor together, stand up straight and hold your head high. This will give you an air of poise and confidence.
· Smile. Not a fake cheesy smile, but a genuine – “Gee, I’m married to this amazing person in my arms” smile. Even if you are trying hard to remember your steps…this is really important.
· Make sure to stay with your partner. Don’t try any fancy new moves on your wedding day. The wedding dance is not the time to pull out all the stops, it’s time to share your love for each other with the world.
· If you make a mistake, keep going. My motto is ‘Fake it til you make it” and it really works. Should you get totally lost, calmly pause, reconnect with your partner, and begin again.
· Your guests are not dance experts. You are not on “Dancing with the Stars” or “So You Think You Can Dance.” The idea is not to show of how skilled of dancers you are. The idea is to connect in this wonderful wedding tradition.
· Make sure you choose a first dance song that you can hear the beat easily and that inspires you.
A note about logistics: Make sure to tell your wedding videographer and photographer that you are going to dance and to make sure to capture this important part of the evening. It’s important to communicate this with them. Recently some students of mine were terribly disappointed when their videographer left for another wedding before they performed their first dance….and they had been taking lessons and practicing for months. Don’t let this happen to you.
Whether you take lessons in a studio, learn from a DVD, or just go it on your own, keep it fun, relaxed and simple and you’ll shine from the inside out as you express your love for each other through your first dance.
About the Author
Mary Pinizzotto is the Wedding Dance Expert. Her "First Dance Fabulous" (TM) DVD and e-book provide everything you need to prepare for your first dance in hours not days from the comfort of your own home. www.weddingdanceexpert.com
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